i relieved the pressure by putting a t fitting and running a few loops around, then vented to atmosphere. this is just was by the gas tank. i don't smell any fumes even though it is vented to atmosphere. if it does become a problem, can try see if i can fit up charcoal canister. solved the excess problem. not sure about filling up the gas tank though, but we'll see.
in regards to the return line, yes, my return line is not fi rated, but if i'm not mistaken, it might be a bit more robust(?) than the plastic returns on the 2002 bimmers. a pretty good writeup that i read through a few times before i took the jump into efi.
http://www.finkbuilt.com/blog/fuel-inje ... -complete/
In its carburetted state, the 2002 uses a plastic (low pressure rated) fuel feed line. The fuel return line runs beneath the car, and for durability, is made of steel, so I did what others before me have done, and reversed the feed and supply lines using the steel as a high pressure feed, and the plastic line as a return to the tank. All flexible lines were replaced with proper high-pressure rated fuel injection hose.
another article i read up on before i took the jump was this one.
http://www.302w.com/Windsor_MegaSquirt_Part2.aspx
again, low pressure rated fuel line returns. basically, these two articles and was the reason i used the carb rated return lines.
what do the oems do? the newer cars are returnless though.